You’re asleep and while I should be picking up after you and getting things into place, I rarely ever do. This is my time of just me and maybe a beer if my heart desires, yes, even at day time. I’ve tried the picking up and clearing up after you every time you slept. It didn’t work. I was left tired and even more irritable. Clean, beautifully kept houses; yes, I love. But when it already feels like things are in place, mess and all, there’s no pressure for me to meet standards of people I’m never going to meet. After all, have you ever seen a spic and span house with a baby living in it?
You’re my purpose, I can’t stress that enough. I love being with you despite just how exhausted I am at the end of each and every day. My body is unkempt and my feet could really do with a pedicure, and perhaps I will when I really wish to get one done, but I love spending my time with you.
My life is at that phase right now where it aligns only with you. And your papa of course. And your nani and mama too, since we’re here. I dislike looking at my body, my clothes don’t fit, my flab as stubborn, if not more, to cling on.
But this is my life in this now. This now where I am here for you. For your laughs and gurgles. For your (absolutely senseless to me) meltdowns. For your cuddles. For your mischief. For your help; oh how I love it when we do things together. For all the times we cook, clean, iron, do laundry, fold clothes, dust together. For getting ready together. For barging into the loo when I’m in only because, well, I rationalise, you want to learn how we brush our teeth, and use the pot.
My now is you in all your totality. All the madness. All the learning. All the immense joy. All the patience. All the times I lose my shit and you yours. All the times we pick each other up so spontaneously and naturally. All the times you show me just how much you observe and listen. All the times we read together and name body parts together and read crazy difficult words like alligator instead of apple for A.
You speak in English, Hindi, and gibberish which is you learning Kannada. You speak in sentences minus the articles. Papa gone office. Mamma tired. Fwimming (swimming) pool toys ball catching falling water. Nani office. Shamat (how you call your mama…the first ever name you pronounced on your own) going office. You say it all. And then lots more with your eyes, your frown, your smile, your irritating cries especially when you’re crying for the heck of it.
I love you. My darling child. Papa’s shona, Nani’s naughtoo momo, Shamat’s noodle pop…and my soul. I love you.